Love & Sex
Extramarital affairs make some couples happier, says a study
01 : Dealing with infidelity
For many, infidelity is the ultimate red flag in a relationship and a deal breaker. It is a sign that one of the partners is unhappy in the marriage and therefore, is not satisfied. But a recent study on this subject has suggested that extramarital affairs actually make some couples happier. Shocked? Here are all the details of this research.
02 : The study
Dr Alicia Walker from Missouri State University surveyed more than thousand users of Ashley Madison (online dating service for married people) and asked them a bunch of questions related to their married life and how infidelity impacted their ‘life satisfaction’ (life satisfaction is an overall assessment of feelings and attitudes about one’s life at a particular point in time ranging from negative to positive).
03 : The shocking finding
Shockingly, seven out of ten participants confessed that having an extramarital affair made them feel more satisfied in their marriage.
04 : Which gender is happier?
Delving deeper into this data, the researcher concluded that women felt more satisfied than men while having an extramarital affair. “Findings indicate that while affairs do tend to make respondents happy, a number of factors influence perception of life satisfaction during an affair, including a belief that an outside partner is required to remain in a primary partnership, a desire to remain in the primary partnership, at least biweekly sexual events with the outside partner, a belief that the individual loves their outside partner, and seeking out the partnership due to sexual dissatisfaction within the primary partnership,” stated the research.
05 : After the affair ends…
So, what happens after an extramarital affair ends? Does the cheater feel guilty or continues with his or her normal life? What about ‘life satisfaction’? Well, the study indicated that the participants reported a better life satisfaction than before after their affair ended.
06 : Another finding
The researcher also opined that the people felt happier in their extramarital affair when they cheated only because of sexual dissatisfaction with the primary partner.
07 : Another study
It is not just this research that claims cheating makes some people happier. Another research published in the PubMed journal too suggested that people who had affair outside their marriage and did not disclose about it to their partner tended to be happier.
08 : Is cheating a solution?
Though the studies suggest that infidelity did help to increase life satisfaction of some married people but it was surely not a healthy solution to resolve the conflicts in your married life. A partner is ultimately duping his or her spouse by engaging in an affair, which only offers temporary relief. The only way one can make the marriage work is by addressing the problem, honestly communicating these to the spouse and working together to solve them.